Took my Own Advice About Healing Heartbreak Excerpt from Book

The following is an excerpt from Heartbreak: Know Why and Heal

The Power of Ritual in Healing Heartbreak

Ritual is the key to healing here. Let me explain what I mean by “ritual”. In this case it is engaging in healing activities with consistency and regularity. This is key and crucial. This bears repeating. In order to break old patterns and habits, it is required that we engage in ongoing, conscious repetition of healthy, new, simple, doable habits to replace the old ones. Like anything new, there are times we cannot sustain the consistency. This can be very discouraging. But guess what? You can jump back in at any time you wish and as little or much as you want. None of this is a straight line strategy. It is trial and error, back and forth, climbing back on the horse kinda healing. It will work; time and practice is all you need. That’s why I provide different tools and strategies. One or more is bound to bring relief. You will see techniques including mantras, which are very powerful, prayers, a releasing ceremony, physical movements, meditations, and cleansings.

Choose a technique. Try not to do them all at once, because it can be overwhelming and you are already in pain. Once you choose one, try it for some time. Give yourself reminders at first. Try any of these techniques or come up with your own:

Voice recordings on phone or mobile device

Good old fashion sticky notes (physical ones as well as electronic ones)

Self texts/emails to self

On white boards at home or private space or use a private in public boards

Use these excellent apps like Evernote, Coach.me, or Moodpanda to help you keep track of it all

Make this a priority because no one is more important than you. If you have loved ones you put first, I understand, but you can’t care for them if you are not in good health and have self love (I will say over and over again). Once you have tried one of the techniques, you can move on to another one. There is no set order. Use one which resonates with you at a given time and try it until you feel relief. Results differ from person to person, hence I would suggest you try each one for at least two weeks before moving on to another one.

Before choosing a technique, do the super basics which are listed below. They are simple, but so very important. Use whichever reminder style works for you to do these self-healing moves.

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Sip water throughout the day Sometimes gulping it is too much and not necessary to stay hydrated. Drink as much as your body specifically requires. You can drink as much as you need by sipping throughout the day. If you are worried about going to the restroom too much, remember this is small issue compared to the benefit of being hydrated.

Breathe consciously Breathing is one of those amazing automatic things our bodies do to keep us alive, But the magic lies in that you can also use your mind to breathe consciously. The frequency, depth and quality of breath can be controlled by us. Remember to breathe, deeply, mindfully.

Check your posture It’s amazing how our body shows our distress by literally shrinking when we slouch, or curve our backs, go to fetal position etc. as a self protection mechanism. However, this inadvertently prevents chi, prana life-source energy from circulating fully within our body more on this on the yoga , chakra center. For those who love gadgets, try this device http://www.lumobodytech.com/, if you wish to try something new.

Grounding You hear about grounding all the time regarding meditation, yoga and other modalities. But what does it really mean? Like many of these practices there are various ways of grounding ranging from simple to quite complex. For purposes of simplicity and efficiency I include here the basics and simplest forms. I leave it up to you to find more advanced methods should you need or want them. Grounding takes us back to our basic connection to our physical being, since we are here on earth right now. We are ruled by gravity a most amazing and mysterious force. Wherever you may be on the planet, creating an awareness of where you are and what is underneath you is the first step. Digging our feet into the ground, feel the wonderful pull of our planet that keeps us from floating away.

We can’t always go to a forest to connect with the earth, so sometimes we have to improvise. I had to since I lived in the middle of a super populated, metal city. So simply sitting on the floor on a yoga mat, pillow, rug, or whatever is comfortable and doing some basic moves, like stretches, easy yoga poses and simple sitting and feeling the floor beneath me does wonders. Even touching sinks knowing the pipes go down into the earth can help you feel grounded, as odd as it may sound.  

Centering The process of centering is similar to grounding. Some use it interchangeably so, but there are differences. In centering, you are centering with yourself. You are centering your body, your mind, thoughts and spirit. Where is this mysterious center? It’s your spinal cord and its corresponding energy centers. Your physical brain and spinal cord is where you take your thoughts and energy. Your etheric energy is all around and within you but your center is the core. The best way to do this is conscious breathing and envisioning your main chakra centers, as described in the next chapter of the book you can get on Amazon.

~Diana Navarro, M.S.

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10 Ways to Get Organized, Because You Matter

  

Top 10 Ways to Get Organized

Getting organized is often at the top of the list when it comes to making a change in your life. And part of self-care includes having a plan. Most people feel like their life could be more organized and therefore more productive and less stressful. And it’s true that when you’re organized, you do get more done and you do feel more in control of your space and time. The following ten strategies will help you get more organized at home, at work, and in your personal life.

#1 Purge and Pare Down

One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to get organized is that they go out and shop for storage containers and solutions first. The first step to any organization process should be to sort through your belongings and purge. Get rid of what you don’t use, don’t need, and what is broken or damaged. Your closet is the easiest example. Instead of buying more shoe racks or another closet shelving system, clean out your closet. Get rid of the clothing that doesn’t fit, is damaged, or that you never wear.

#2 Create a Place for Everything

Once you’ve pared down your belongings, then you can begin to invest in storage solutions. Choose a logical place for everything. Many people have the habit of putting their belongings in a closet or cupboard. As long as it is out of sight, they feel organized. A better solution is to create logical storage systems. For example, you might keep all your cleaning supplies in one carryall that you can tote from room to room. Or you might keep cleaning supplies for each room in that room.

#3 Create Systems for Repeatable Tasks

Systems are step-by-step processes that you can use to simplify repeatable tasks. For example, you might create a system for sorting your mail. When you get the mail you immediately open the important mail, file the mail to read later, and shred the mail that needs to be disposed of. Other systems might include cleaning, planning, cooking and preparing meals, and caring for pets. Make a list of the tasks that you repeat every day. Create routines for these tasks.

#4 Invest in Backup Software and Storage

Back up your files online and offline. Pictures, finances, recipes, and more are stored on your computer. Invest in a backup system. You might use a cloud storage system. You can also back up your computer to an external hard drive. Back on at least weekly, more if your life is on your computer and you can’t risk losing data.

#5 Use Financial/Accounting Software

Finances are often one of the most disorganized areas that people complain about. The solution is simple. Find an accounting or bookkeeping software or application that works for your needs. Get one that is both on your computer and your mobile device. Look for a system that allows you to budget, pay off debt, save money, plan for taxes, and know at a glance how much you have in your bank account.

#6 Use a Calendar or Planning System

This sounds like a no brainer but so many people don’t use a calendar that supports them to succeed. There are many different systems and tools to choose from. Like your accounting software, it’s often easiest if you find a system that you can use both on your computer and on your phone. It can be something simple, and free, like Google Calendar, or you might prefer something with more features like Evernote.

#7 Make A List of Your SMART Goals

Writing down your goals makes them more permanent. So, grab a notebook or that calendar or planning system that you’ve chosen and make a list of your goals. What specifically do you want to accomplish? When do you want to accomplish it by? Why do you want to accomplish it? What is your motivation? How will your life change and improve?

SMART goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. Once you’ve identified your goals, take some time to break them down into smaller pieces that you can manage. Add those pieces and their deadlines to your planner and get to work.

#8 Clean and Organize 15 Minutes Daily

Dedicate 15 – 20 minutes a day straightening your home. You might do it at the end of the day, after dinner and before you sit down on the couch for television. Integrating this daily habit into your life ensures that your home stays clean and welcoming. And, doing this at the end of every day means that you wake up to a clean home. It starts the day off right.

You might also dedicate the last ten minutes of the workday to cleaning off your desk. Then, when you come in the next day, your environment will support you to succeed. Although to be fair, super creative people need a spot that is raw with creativity. So perhaps give yourself a little corner that you can keep your "creative mess" until it takes form more fully.

#9 Establish Daily Priorities

Look at your goals and your calendar each day. Identify two to three tasks that you want to accomplish, above all else. These are the tasks that you’ll focus on and tackle first. Establishing daily priorities helps you organize your day, your time, and it makes you more productive. Look to prioritize tasks that have the biggest impact on your success.

#10 Focus on One Project at a Time

Many people believe that they are fully capable of multitasking. Unfortunately, this is a myth. The human brain cannot multitask. It cannot do two or more things at once. Instead, your attention is divided. You might be able to bounce back and forth between several tasks so that it seems like you’re multitasking.

However, each time you shift focus you lose a bit of time and productivity. If you want to get more done and actually be more organized, focus on one project at a time. Your attention won’t be divided, you’ll have better results, and you won’t feel as overwhelmed.

Where do you start? Start your organization process with the area of your life or home that feels the most out of control. It might be your schedule, your refrigerator, or your finances. Whatever feels like the most frightening thing to tackle is probably where you should start because it’ll have the biggest impact on your life. And once you get that big mess organized, everything else might feel easier to take care of.

Being organized is beautiful. And beauty alleviates all kinds of pain~~Beauty For Pain

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