Ways I Found to Heal a Broken Heart, Part 3 Bites Size Healing

How did I heal my broken heart?

It's Part 3 of you bite size healing from Ways I Found to Heal a Broken Heart  Welcome back! FYI, to read part 1 and 2 simply click on the title.

On this post, I'm going to share here another technique to help your broken heart.

As said in the first post on this subject, there is nothing more painful than a broken heart. It doesn't matter what broke the heart, loss of a loved one, a break up, betrayal of a friend...the pain is very real, visceral both emotionally and physically.

As I stated in the previous posts, I wrote various ways that are not usually discussed by popular culture often (or at all) that really have provided many people, including myself, with relief from heartache. You can find them in my book Heal Heartbreak and Find True Love. 

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Here I will share another way you can explore in finding relief for your heartbreak pain. 

A bite size healing option

We hear about meditation just about everywhere these days. How many of us actually practice it? It seems like an impossible task when we should just be busy doing "something". But what is this busy-ness really accomplishing? Is it more of a distraction to be and stay busy doing...something?

What if we can add a little something to this busy-ness to make it actually instrumental to healing our pain? We can add meditation, traditional or mindful it is up to you.

Just do an online search of benefits of meditation, you will soon see that it is worth at try. I personally, don't have much patience in general so thinking about meditation was enough to stress me out even more. That's because I saw from traditional sources that you need at least 20 minutes of quiet meditation in certain poses for it to be effective.

Fortunately I like to experiment and I decided to do bite size versions of this. As silly as it may sound, I sometimes do 60 seconds. It is amazing how long 60 seconds can seem. But I feel accomplished and it motivates me to do more and that's what it's all about. Giving yourself the opportunity  to try something then challenge yourself to do a little more when you feel you can and you will.

Another Most Surprisingly Effective Technique

Let's start with regular mediation and take the resistance away from the process and then move into mindful meditation. Like the other two techniques discussed in past posts, this is elegantly simple. Why? Because you can use as much discipline as you can muster up at any given time. Here is another excerpt from my book for you to enjoy.

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Meditation-

The act of meditation is quieting the mind to connect with one’s higher-self and the Universe. Meditation is a form of listening. Meditation is a work in progress of silencing our ego voice, the everyday chatter and opening up to the infinite information available to us. Breathing consciously is essential to any meditation practice which is why I try to remind myself, my readers and my clients to take a delicious conscious breath.

Meditation іѕ an age-old technique оf focusing thе mind on particular objects, prayers оr just immersing oneself іn deep silence with no distractions оr commotions that would disturb the veil of concentration. It іѕ а great way tо sort out оnе'ѕ colliding thoughts and setting оnе'ѕ mind on а single path tо peace аnd contentment from wіthіn. There are different types of meditation but the most important thing to remember is to find the technique that best works for you.

Different types оf meditation help уоu focus on various areas оf уоur life including уоur routine. Choose a method thаt іѕ convenient for уоu to practice everyday. It саn help уоu overcome headaches, stress аnd оthеr health problems that crop up wіthіn uѕ аѕ wеll аѕ а way tо just stop аnd bе іn thе moment. Uѕе meditation аѕ а way оf calming уоu inside, аnd bringing tо уоurѕеlf аll that іѕ peaceful аnd positive. Even while using the simple breathing in counting 1, breathing out counting 2, for several minutes, ask your higher-self to give you the truth of your heartbreak situation and the strength to move on.

Mindfulness Meditation-

Actions саn be meditative. Bу incorporating different types оf meditations into daily activities, уоu саn improve the quality оf your life bу improving уоur ability tо focus, stay calm, retain awareness, аnd maintain balance іn уоur body, mind, аnd spirit. Some of the activities you can practice mindful meditation with include:

• Washing dishes 
• Taking а shower
• Standing in line at а bank, café or anywhere
• Doing daily household cleaning оr оthеr chores
• Painting
• Exercising
• Walking
• Riding the Elevator
• While on a work break

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Helpful Hint:

While doing any of the tasks listed here or ones you can think of , take an extra second and be aware of what you are doing. What are you really doing? Why are you doing it? What are the sounds, smells, sights, or textures of what you are doing? How does any of this fit in the scheme of things in your world or the world.

As I continue to suggest, find a way of logging your progress. This will give you the motivation you need to continue your path to healing. The way of logging is up to you. Journal, voice note, video diary,  etc. The options are many and if you make it easy it's even better. 

Try doing this anytime, anywhere. How about once you finish reading this? Doing this in a specific way, like carving out a special, quiet time can create a true free space for you to heal. 

I would love to hear your feedback so contact me to share your experience. 

Wishing you healing, joy and love...and kindly share this with someone who needs it.

~Diana Navarro, M.S.

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Ways I Found to Heal a Broken Heart, Part 2 Bites Size Healing

How did I heal my broken heart?

Welcome to Part 2 of Ways I Found to Heal a Broken Heart  to read part one simply click on the title.

I'm going to share here another technique to help your broken heart.

As said in the first post on this subject, there is nothing more painful than a broken heart. It doesn't matter what broke the heart, loss of a loved one, a break up, betrayal of a friend...the pain is very real, visceral both emotionally and physically.

I wrote various ways that are not usually discussed by popular culture often (or at all) that really have provided many people, including myself, with relief from heartache. You can find them in my book Heal Heartbreak and Find True Love. 

Click Here for your copy

As promised, I will share another way you can explore in finding relief for your heartbreak pain. 

A bite size healing option

Sometimes all you want to do is tell the source of your pain about this pain. You want to express yourself, ask questions and get answers. But it is not always a good idea or even necessary to send this information to the source. If the source is a relationship, the other person(s) may not be capable of hearing or accepting what you are saying. If it is a situation then clearly you can't really express yourself to a "circumstance" and expect a traditional answer. If it's someone who passed away or the loss of an animal companion, you can see how actually sending them a note is not going to work. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't write it anyway to promote healing. Let me explain...

I found a technique that provides the same cathartic relief without the disappointment one feels when not getting the desired response from the source. Don't be fooled by how simple this seems. It is extremely powerful when done in the way I suggest here. Give it a chance and see what happens. Go with your gut as to which one(s) you want to try and dare yourself to discover something new. 

Another Most Surprisingly Effective Technique

A seemingly simple but powerful technique I found was writing a letter but with a twist. You write this letter to the source of your pain. And yes, you may have to write several letters because life often comes with multiple experiences which can break our hearts.  Here is an excerpt from my book. Don't worry about how illogical this may be. We are dealing with pain and emotions and using logic alone is not a way to true healing. My advise is to carve out time and just do it. Start any way you wish. "Dear Source of Pain", or "Dear (name of person or situation)" and go from there.

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Write a letter to the source of your pain (but do NOT send it)

This technique can be very effective even when the person who hurt who has died. In this case, I suggest you use the embodied writing technique. Write all you can, unedited. Don’t hold back, feel, and write freely. Don’t’ worry about errors, whether it’s legible or if you are being clear. This is for your heart and soul not your brain, and your heart and soul understands. Take as long as you want, make it as short or long as you need to. Want to add sketches? Do it. Draw the pain. This technique is used on children for one reason, because it works. We forget that we too need to express ourselves whole-fully not just logically with words. The images can do this for you. Use colored pens, pencils, chalk, anything you wish to release what you feel uncensored. This is only for you. Once this is done, you can do one of two things: 1) you can immediately dispose of it by (safely) burning and throwing out or 2) soak it in water until materials are drenched and dispose of it afterwards.

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Helpful Hint: Make this a sacred gift to yourself. Buy special paper or a journal specifically for writing these letters. It can be specialty paper or simple binder paper, but it is still special because it is providing you a place to release your pain out to the universe and recycle that energy for the highest good. Use a pen that feels great and smooth. Or it can be a pen with colored ink. There are so many interesting options like gel ink, colors like red, purple, green that can make this more significant to you.

Of course you can type it and print it if you prefer. Use different color and font, and/or printing paper to achieve the same effect of making this a special and different process for you.

And said in a previous post, find a way of logging your progress. This will give you the motivation you need to continue your path to healing. The way of logging is up to you. Journal, voice note, video diary,  etc. The options are many and if you make it easy it's even better. 

Doing this in a specific way, like carving out a special, quiet time and the above tips can make this of writing a letter much more effective than a more traditional way of writing one. Once you have done this with one of the sources of pain be sure to release it as described above. Give it time to do its work and dissipate out of you so you can create a true free space to heal. 

I would love to hear your feedback so contact me to share your experience. 

Wishing you healing, joy and love...and kindly share this with someone who needs it.

~Diana Navarro, M.S.

Links for you to check

For Coaching Services with me check here

To get  your copy of my books please check here

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Ways I Found to Heal a Broken Heart, Part 1 Bite Size Healing

How did I heal my broken heart?

There is nothing more painful than a broken heart. It doesn't matter what broke the heart, loss of a loved one, a break up, betrayal of a friend...the pain is very real, visceral both emotionally and physically.

I've had my heart broken a few times. That's what happens in life sometimes. I desperately felt I had to find a way to relieve that pain and yes heal. The relief was first thing I needed. I know people use all kinds of ways to find relief from pain. Some not healthy. I didn't want to use drugs, alcohol, distraction or any other way that I knew deep inside would not lead to real healing.

I put my research hat on and found that many of the suggestions out there by the self-help world, therapists, social workers, books, magazines, blogs, friends and family did not work for me. I kept on looking. Since I have a tendency to think outside the box, I went down a more integrative route. It wasn't easy and took a lot of time, which I felt was torturous since the pain was so great. The good news! I did find some relief. I dove right in and tried everything that resonated with me. Actions that provided relief while promoting real long-term healing.

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Some techniques took weeks, some took years, some I'm still working on. But the healing is definitely in process. I don't know about you but I needed help...fast! So I committed to the healing process and here I am. Some of these actions are tried and true techniques and others are unconventional, not spoken about in popular culture often. I decided to write some of these in my book Heal Heartbreak and Find True Love. 

Why find true love as in my book Title? 

Because ultimately, love is the answer to everything, in my humble belief. And what is true love? Ahhh good question. True love is the love that surpasses me, you and encompasses everything. As humans, how can we feel this? That seems to be the question of philosophers, poets, mystics, artists and your everyday human being. 

Call me a wishful thinker, or call me whatever you want. I have had glimpses of this true love...and I do believe it's out there and inside of me. So everyday it is practice. Practice of what? Asking and working on remembering who I am and who we all are. This is what I write about and work on daily. Sometimes I have fantastic days and others I have days that I feel this is all a waste of time. But in the end, I always come back to the those glimpses of ecstasy that I have had the honor of experiencing and know are attainable. 

One of my life purposes is to share this healing possibility in any way I can because perhaps this may be my infinitesimally small way of contributing to healing, truth, love to the universe to balance the pain, despair and hopelessness that seems to be overcoming so many.

What is required?

I have found through my research, personal experience with clients, and my own personal experience that there are few requirements to the road to healing. 

In other words, all the wanting in the world won't help your heart heal unless you have some plan and the wherewithal to follow through. However, when you have tried techniques and they fail, compounded with the extreme pain of the actual heartbreak, it is all too easy to give up or turn to unhealthy ways of coping. 

So what are some of the ways I've discovered? They are outlined more fully in my book but I will share some with you and one in particular on this post. But first, here are here are some of he requirements to start true healing.

• Readiness
• Earnest Desire
• Commitment and
• A balance between healthy skepticism and having and open mind

A bite size healing option

Some healing techniques may seen incredibly simple. Almost too simple to actually work. But guess what? Unless you have tried them and tried them long enough,you'll never know if they do work. Some are going to seem silly or even full out insane. Again, you might to try it and see what begins to happen. Go with your gut as to which one(s) you want to try and dare yourself to discover something new. 

A most Surprisingly Effective Technique

I'm going to start by technique that took me by surprise. I had tried many techniques, including therapy, yoga, regular meditation, and still felt devastated. So searched and searched and found an "action" that led to healing. It is vocalizing a mantra. Yes, saying something over and over again until I felt relief. This isn't just any old positive thinking mantra. This is from a sacred language with a special vibration. Here is an excerpt from my book. 

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Guru Guru Wahe Guru

Guru Ram Das Guru

What this mantra means

Guru - teacher or guide (including your higher-self) who brings one from the darkness into the light and awareness.

Wahe – “exclamation of ecstasy like “WOW!''’

Ram Das –“ literally translates as "God's Servant"’

The guru here refers to Guru Ram Das, the Fourth Guru of the Sikhs “…known for its healing qualities and for imparting humility to the one who chants it… This mantra relates directly to healing and protective energy represented by Guru Ram Das. The mantra is comprised of two parts. The first part is a nirgun mantra (Guru Guru Wahe Guru). This projects the mind to the source of knowledge and ecstasy. The second part is a sirgun mantra (Guru Ram Das Guru). This means the wisdom that comes as a servant of the infinite. It is the mantra of humility. It reconnects the experience of the finite to infinity.” Source: www.spiritVoyage.com

It is simple, short and it works. It is recommended you recite it in your mind or out loud if you are able to. Recite it, over and over again whenever, and wherever. The vibration it emits somehow replaces the negative thoughts associated with the event, like the useless, repetitive blame, and guilt.

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Helpful Hint: Find a way of logging your progress. This will give you the motivation you need to continue your path to healing. The way of logging is up to you. Journal, voice note, video diary,  etc. The options are many and if you make it easy it's even better. 

I can tell you that this has worked for me, and I am ridiculously skeptic. I suggest you give this a try for a least two weeks to see if there is relief. Remember this is just one of various ways to work on healing but it is worth a go when your other option is constant pain, guilt, regret, excessive drinking, eating...you get the picture.

I would love to hear your feedback so contact me to share your experience. 

Wishing you healing, joy and love...

~Diana Navarro, M.S.

Links for you to check

For Coaching Services with me check here

To get  your copy of my books please check here

#bitesizehealing