How did I heal my broken heart?
Welcome to Part 2 of Ways I Found to Heal a Broken Heart to read part one simply click on the title.
I'm going to share here another technique to help your broken heart.
As said in the first post on this subject, there is nothing more painful than a broken heart. It doesn't matter what broke the heart, loss of a loved one, a break up, betrayal of a friend...the pain is very real, visceral both emotionally and physically.
I wrote various ways that are not usually discussed by popular culture often (or at all) that really have provided many people, including myself, with relief from heartache. You can find them in my book Heal Heartbreak and Find True Love.
I'm going to share here another technique to help your broken heart.
As said in the first post on this subject, there is nothing more painful than a broken heart. It doesn't matter what broke the heart, loss of a loved one, a break up, betrayal of a friend...the pain is very real, visceral both emotionally and physically.
I wrote various ways that are not usually discussed by popular culture often (or at all) that really have provided many people, including myself, with relief from heartache. You can find them in my book Heal Heartbreak and Find True Love.
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As promised, I will share another way you can explore in finding relief for your heartbreak pain.
A bite size healing option
Sometimes all you want to do is tell the source of your pain about this pain. You want to express yourself, ask questions and get answers. But it is not always a good idea or even necessary to send this information to the source. If the source is a relationship, the other person(s) may not be capable of hearing or accepting what you are saying. If it is a situation then clearly you can't really express yourself to a "circumstance" and expect a traditional answer. If it's someone who passed away or the loss of an animal companion, you can see how actually sending them a note is not going to work. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't write it anyway to promote healing. Let me explain...
I found a technique that provides the same cathartic relief without the disappointment one feels when not getting the desired response from the source. Don't be fooled by how simple this seems. It is extremely powerful when done in the way I suggest here. Give it a chance and see what happens. Go with your gut as to which one(s) you want to try and dare yourself to discover something new.
I found a technique that provides the same cathartic relief without the disappointment one feels when not getting the desired response from the source. Don't be fooled by how simple this seems. It is extremely powerful when done in the way I suggest here. Give it a chance and see what happens. Go with your gut as to which one(s) you want to try and dare yourself to discover something new.
Another Most Surprisingly Effective Technique
A seemingly simple but powerful technique I found was writing a letter but with a twist. You write this letter to the source of your pain. And yes, you may have to write several letters because life often comes with multiple experiences which can break our hearts. Here is an excerpt from my book. Don't worry about how illogical this may be. We are dealing with pain and emotions and using logic alone is not a way to true healing. My advise is to carve out time and just do it. Start any way you wish. "Dear Source of Pain", or "Dear (name of person or situation)" and go from there.
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Write a letter to the source of your pain (but do NOT send it)
This technique can be very effective even when the person who hurt who has died. In this case, I suggest you use the embodied writing technique. Write all you can, unedited. Don’t hold back, feel, and write freely. Don’t’ worry about errors, whether it’s legible or if you are being clear. This is for your heart and soul not your brain, and your heart and soul understands. Take as long as you want, make it as short or long as you need to. Want to add sketches? Do it. Draw the pain. This technique is used on children for one reason, because it works. We forget that we too need to express ourselves whole-fully not just logically with words. The images can do this for you. Use colored pens, pencils, chalk, anything you wish to release what you feel uncensored. This is only for you. Once this is done, you can do one of two things: 1) you can immediately dispose of it by (safely) burning and throwing out or 2) soak it in water until materials are drenched and dispose of it afterwards.
This technique can be very effective even when the person who hurt who has died. In this case, I suggest you use the embodied writing technique. Write all you can, unedited. Don’t hold back, feel, and write freely. Don’t’ worry about errors, whether it’s legible or if you are being clear. This is for your heart and soul not your brain, and your heart and soul understands. Take as long as you want, make it as short or long as you need to. Want to add sketches? Do it. Draw the pain. This technique is used on children for one reason, because it works. We forget that we too need to express ourselves whole-fully not just logically with words. The images can do this for you. Use colored pens, pencils, chalk, anything you wish to release what you feel uncensored. This is only for you. Once this is done, you can do one of two things: 1) you can immediately dispose of it by (safely) burning and throwing out or 2) soak it in water until materials are drenched and dispose of it afterwards.
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Helpful Hint: Make this a sacred gift to yourself. Buy special paper or a journal specifically for writing these letters. It can be specialty paper or simple binder paper, but it is still special because it is providing you a place to release your pain out to the universe and recycle that energy for the highest good. Use a pen that feels great and smooth. Or it can be a pen with colored ink. There are so many interesting options like gel ink, colors like red, purple, green that can make this more significant to you.
Of course you can type it and print it if you prefer. Use different color and font, and/or printing paper to achieve the same effect of making this a special and different process for you.
And said in a previous post, find a way of logging your progress. This will give you the motivation you need to continue your path to healing. The way of logging is up to you. Journal, voice note, video diary, etc. The options are many and if you make it easy it's even better.
Of course you can type it and print it if you prefer. Use different color and font, and/or printing paper to achieve the same effect of making this a special and different process for you.
And said in a previous post, find a way of logging your progress. This will give you the motivation you need to continue your path to healing. The way of logging is up to you. Journal, voice note, video diary, etc. The options are many and if you make it easy it's even better.
Doing this in a specific way, like carving out a special, quiet time and the above tips can make this of writing a letter much more effective than a more traditional way of writing one. Once you have done this with one of the sources of pain be sure to release it as described above. Give it time to do its work and dissipate out of you so you can create a true free space to heal.
I would love to hear your feedback so contact me to share your experience.
Wishing you healing, joy and love...and kindly share this with someone who needs it.
~Diana Navarro, M.S.
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