Wednesday, June 21, 2017

10 Ways to Get Organized, Because You Matter

  

Top 10 Ways to Get Organized

Getting organized is often at the top of the list when it comes to making a change in your life. And part of self-care includes having a plan. Most people feel like their life could be more organized and therefore more productive and less stressful. And it’s true that when you’re organized, you do get more done and you do feel more in control of your space and time. The following ten strategies will help you get more organized at home, at work, and in your personal life.

#1 Purge and Pare Down

One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to get organized is that they go out and shop for storage containers and solutions first. The first step to any organization process should be to sort through your belongings and purge. Get rid of what you don’t use, don’t need, and what is broken or damaged. Your closet is the easiest example. Instead of buying more shoe racks or another closet shelving system, clean out your closet. Get rid of the clothing that doesn’t fit, is damaged, or that you never wear.

#2 Create a Place for Everything

Once you’ve pared down your belongings, then you can begin to invest in storage solutions. Choose a logical place for everything. Many people have the habit of putting their belongings in a closet or cupboard. As long as it is out of sight, they feel organized. A better solution is to create logical storage systems. For example, you might keep all your cleaning supplies in one carryall that you can tote from room to room. Or you might keep cleaning supplies for each room in that room.




#3 Create Systems for Repeatable Tasks

Systems are step-by-step processes that you can use to simplify repeatable tasks. For example, you might create a system for sorting your mail. When you get the mail you immediately open the important mail, file the mail to read later, and shred the mail that needs to be disposed of. Other systems might include cleaning, planning, cooking and preparing meals, and caring for pets. Make a list of the tasks that you repeat every day. Create routines for these tasks.

#4 Invest in Backup Software and Storage

Back up your files online and offline. Pictures, finances, recipes, and more are stored on your computer. Invest in a backup system. You might use a cloud storage system. You can also back up your computer to an external hard drive. Back on at least weekly, more if your life is on your computer and you can’t risk losing data.


#5 Use Financial/Accounting Software

Finances are often one of the most disorganized areas that people complain about. The solution is simple. Find an accounting or bookkeeping software or application that works for your needs. Get one that is both on your computer and your mobile device. Look for a system that allows you to budget, pay off debt, save money, plan for taxes, and know at a glance how much you have in your bank account.

#6 Use a Calendar or Planning System

This sounds like a no brainer but so many people don’t use a calendar that supports them to succeed. There are many different systems and tools to choose from. Like your accounting software, it’s often easiest if you find a system that you can use both on your computer and on your phone. It can be something simple, and free, like Google Calendar, or you might prefer something with more features like Evernote.

#7 Make A List of Your SMART Goals
Writing down your goals makes them more permanent. So, grab a notebook or that calendar or planning system that you’ve chosen and make a list of your goals. What specifically do you want to accomplish? When do you want to accomplish it by? Why do you want to accomplish it? What is your motivation? How will your life change and improve?
SMART goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. Once you’ve identified your goals, take some time to break them down into smaller pieces that you can manage. Add those pieces and their deadlines to your planner and get to work.

#8 Clean and Organize 15 Minutes Daily

Dedicate 15 – 20 minutes a day straightening your home. You might do it at the end of the day, after dinner and before you sit down on the couch for television. Integrating this daily habit into your life ensures that your home stays clean and welcoming. And, doing this at the end of every day means that you wake up to a clean home. It starts the day off right.
You might also dedicate the last ten minutes of the workday to cleaning off your desk. Then, when you come in the next day, your environment will support you to succeed. Although to be fair, super creative people need a spot that is raw with creativity. So perhaps give yourself a little corner that you can keep your "creative mess" until it takes form more fully.

#9 Establish Daily Priorities

Look at your goals and your calendar each day. Identify two to three tasks that you want to accomplish, above all else. These are the tasks that you’ll focus on and tackle first. Establishing daily priorities helps you organize your day, your time, and it makes you more productive. Look to prioritize tasks that have the biggest impact on your success.

#10 Focus on One Project at a Time

Many people believe that they are fully capable of multitasking. Unfortunately, this is a myth. The human brain cannot multitask. It cannot do two or more things at once. Instead, your attention is divided. You might be able to bounce back and forth between several tasks so that it seems like you’re multitasking.
However, each time you shift focus you lose a bit of time and productivity. If you want to get more done and actually be more organized, focus on one project at a time. Your attention won’t be divided, you’ll have better results, and you won’t feel as overwhelmed.

Where do you start? Start your organization process with the area of your life or home that feels the most out of control. It might be your schedule, your refrigerator, or your finances. Whatever feels like the most frightening thing to tackle is probably where you should start because it’ll have the biggest impact on your life. And once you get that big mess organized, everything else might feel easier to take care of.


Being organized is beautiful. And beauty alleviates all kinds of pain~~Beauty For Pain





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Thursday, May 4, 2017

It takes Courage to be Seen: Excerpt from Daily OM Madisyn Taylor


~I read this article and had to share in the moment where I have decided to engage on my next life project of sharing my life story as an empath~

Letting Yourself Be Seen


BY MADISYN TAYLOR
A powerful healing tool can be allowing yourself to be witnessed by your friends, sharing your pain to a listening audience.
When we allow ourselves to be witnessed by another, we cannot help but be transformed by the experience. Whether we are sharing a personal experience, standing in front of friends to celebrate a special occasion, or expressing our unbridled joy or sorrow in front of a loved one, we are allowing ourselves to be seen and experienced in a very intimate way. Not only are we baring ourselves to someone else, but we are allowing that person to hold a very specific kind of space with us so this powerful act can take place. To be witnessed is to let ourselves be seen as we truly are in that moment.

Our friends and loved ones can easily be witnesses for us, if only we are brave enough to let them. Your next birthday may be the perfect occasion to experience this sacred act: Invite your friends and loved ones to your special day. During the celebration, stand in front of them and thank them for being there for you. Feel their gratitude, attention, warmth, and support, while noticing the sense of safety you feel as they surround you. If you feel inspired, share your innermost thoughts about the day and your life. You may be surprised at the feelings of peace and validation that arise within you, when you feel safe enough to go deep into your soul and share yourself with those you trust.

Anyone who has ever seen love, admiration, acceptance, or appreciation reflected in a friend or loved one's eyes knows how transformative that experience can be. When you bare yourself to another, you are giving them the gift of you and showing them that they also matter. In letting yourself be witnessed, you are letting others into your intimate space, stepping in the sacred container they have created for you, and creating a cauldron of positive affirmation, support, love, and goodwill that will stay with you forever.

~Diana Navarro, M.S.
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Ten Habits of Highly Effective Karma Managers -Beauty for Pain

Ten Habits of Highly Effective Karma Managers 


Originally from Beliefnet which Reprinted with permission of Hinduism Today.

First Principle: Forego Retaliation

There is no need for you to be the instrument to return a karmic reaction to someone else. For example, an individual is really nasty to you, so you feel the impulse to retaliate and be nasty to him. If you follow that tack, you will create a new unseemly karma to face in the future. Better to let the law of karma take its own course without your intervention, which will generally happen through some other person with less self-control who does not understand this law of life. Let us take another example: a classic cowboy movie plot. Someone shoots and kills the hero's brother during a robbery, and the rest of the film is devoted to his chasing down the outlaw and shooting him in revenge. What, then, happens in the next life, the sequel? There is definitely a karma to be faced for killing in revenge. Perhaps another robbery will take place and the hero will be killed. Wisdom tells us that it is better to let the sheriff apprehend the outlaw and bring him to justice. The sheriff has taken an oath and is authorized to uphold the law and therefore creates no negative karma in capturing the outlaw, even if he has no choice but to kill him in the process.Gurudeva said, "Retaliation is a terrible, negative force. When we retaliate against others, we build up a bank account of negative karma that will come back on us full force when we least expect it."
Tirukural: "Forget anger toward all who have offended you, for it gives rise to teeming troubles.
Second Principle: Accept Responsibility


Karma generally manifests through other people, and thus it is easy to see the other person as totally responsible for what happens to us. For example, you are attacked by a mugger who strikes you and steals your valuables. You are quite upset with the malicious thief. However, the mystical perspective is to see yourself as responsible for whatever happens to you. You are, through your actions in the past, the creator of all that you experience in the present. You caused your loss; the thief is just the instrument for returning your karma to you.Of course, it is easy to apply this principle when the effect is an enjoyable one (we know intuitively when we get good things that we deserve them) and not so easy to apply it when it is not enjoyable, but in both cases we are equally responsible. In the end, you have no one to praise but yourself when your life is filled with successes and no one to blame but yourself when your life is filled with difficulties. Gurudeva said, "As long as we externalize the source of our successes and failures, we perpetuate the cycles of karma, good or bad. There is no one out there making it all happen. Our actions, thoughts and attitudes make it all happen. We must accept and bear our karma cheerfully."Tirukural: "Why should those who rejoice when destiny brings them good moan when that same destiny decrees misfortune?"

Third Principle: Forgive the Offender
Take as an example a teenage boy on the way home from school. One day a gang of boys teases him for being different in some way and beats him up. A common response is for the teenager to feel angry at the boys and harbor ill feelings toward them for years. This is problematic, however, as it keeps the lower emotions of anger constantly churning in his subconscious mind. Unless he forgives them, he perpetuates the event in his own mind, long after it is over.Gurudeva often told the story of when a man attacked Swami Sivananda, hitting him forcefully in the head with an axe during evening satsang at his Rishikesh ashram. Swamiji's followers were outraged and angrily subdued the man. But Swami Sivananda responded with the opposite sentiment. He asked that the man not be punished or turned over to the police. The next day he met with his attacker and gave him a train ticket home, several spiritual books and money. Swami said, "Thank you so much for being the instrument to bring this karma back to me. Now I am free of it." He felt no anger toward the man whatsoever.Tirukural: "If you return kindness for injuries received and forget both, those who harmed you will be punished by their own shame." 

Fourth Principle: Consider the Consequences

Quite often our actions are based upon an emotional reaction to what someone has done or said to us. The consequences of such actions are often not clearly and carefully thought about. For example, someone insults you, so you insult them back. If you did reflect, you would see that the consequence of harming someone else with your words in the present is for you to be harmed again in the future by someone else's words. This behavior creates an endless cycle of being harmed and harming others, which is only stopped by considering the consequences before acting and not harming back. Mahatma Gandhi once said, "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." So, too, instinctive retaliation ultimately makes the whole world angry. The principle of considering the karmic consequences pertains equally to positive actions. The wisest approach is to not simply react to things that happen to us, but to take time to consider the karmic repercussions of all actions before we take them.The habit of considering the consequences before acting can be developed at an early age when parents and teachers utilize positive discipline methods to help children face the natural and logical consequences of their actions. An insightful letter from Lord Ganesha on consequences in Gurudeva's book Loving Ganesha reminds us: "Keep track of your paces, for your walk makes marks. Each mark is a reward or a stumbling block. Learn to look at the step you have made and the step you have not made yet. This brings you close to Me."Gurudeva elucidates our fourth principle: "It is our reaction to karmas through lack of understanding that creates most karmas we shall experience at a future time." Tirukural: "All suffering recoils on the wrongdoer himself. Thus, those desiring not to suffer refrain from causing others pain."
Fifth Principle: Create No Negative Karmas
Now that we have a good grasp of the karmic consequences of various kinds of actions, what is needed next to progress even further in the management of karma is a firm commitment to refrain from actions that create new negative karma. Perhaps we should all take a pledge, such as "I promise henceforth to refrain from all actions that create negative karmas." This is actually not as difficult as it sounds. How do we know if a specific action will create negative karma or not? Scriptures such as the Tirukural may make mention of it. We can ask a Hindu religious leader his or her opinion. We can ask our parents or elders. And once we get the knack of it, our own conscience will be able to provide the answer most of the time.Gurudeva advises us: "Wise handling of karma begins with the decision to carry the karma we now have cheerfully, and not add to it. A firm decision to live in such a way as to create no new negative karmas is a sound basis for living a religious life, for following the precepts of dharma and avoiding that which is adharmic."Tirukural: "What good is a man's knowledge unless it prompts him to prevent the pain of others as if it were his own pain?"
Sixth Principle: Seek Divine Guidance
We don't have to manage our karma totally on our own. Help is available, divine help, in fact. Such help comes from none other than Lord Ganesha, who has the duty of helping sincere devotees manage their karma in the best way possible. Once, through sincere worship, an individual develops a personal relationship with Ganesha, he naturally drops off any remaining adharmic patterns of behavior and becomes fully established in a dharmic life. Not only does Lord Ganesha help you become established in dharma, but in the best personal dharmic pattern for this life, known as svadharma, your natural occupation and duties to family, friends, relatives, deceased relatives, community, guru and temple. When we seek His permission and blessings before every undertaking, Ganesha, as the Lord of Obstacles, guides our karmas through creating and removing obstacles from our path, similar to a mother's watching over her young children at play. He also has an extraordinary knack for unweaving complicated situations and making them simple. He can unweave His devotees from their karma, clarifying and purifying their lives. How can we invoke this divine guidance when we encounter karmic difficulties? Simply by chanting His name or a simple mantra, or placing a flower at His feet, visiting His temples for puja, meditating on Him or just visualizing His holy form and inviting Him mentally to help in our time of need. He will respond.Gurudeva comments on svadharma, "Such a life is the fulfillment of all previous efforts and thus erases the uncomplimentary deeds and adds beneficial ones, so a next birth can be most rewardingly great and useful to the whole of mankind."Tirukural: "Draw near the Feet of Him who is free of desire and aversion, and live forever free of suffering."
Seventh Principle: Mitigate Past Karma 

Once we have stopped acting in ways that create new negative karma, our life will be sublime enough to focus on ridding ourselves of karmas of the past, or mitigating them--meaning to make them less harsh, painful or severe. To better understand mitigation, let's make another comparison to the judicial system. A man commits armed robbery and receives a ten- to twenty-year sentence. But due to good behavior in prison, he is paroled after only five years. He has mitigated his sentence, made it less severe, through his good behavior. Let's now take an example of karma that is mitigated. You are destined to lose a leg in this life because you caused someone to lose his in a past life. If you are living a selfish, low-minded kind of life, the karma would come full force and you would lose your leg. However, if you are a kindly person who regularly helps others, the karma would be mitigated and you might read in the morning paper about someone losing a leg and take on the emotion of that experience as if it had happened to you. Later on when hiking you stumble and your leg is injured, but not severely. The full force of the karma was softened by your kind and helpful actions.Following Dharma: Living virtuously, in itself, helps modulate the release of karmic seeds, evening out the ebb and flow of karma and minimizing "karmic explosions" that might otherwise occur. Karma Yoga: Helping others-karma yoga, performing good deeds-and thus acquiring merit which registers as a new and positive karma is one way of alleviating the heaviness of some of our past karma. Bhakti Yoga: Worship, bhakti yoga, that is intense enough to cause us to receive the grace of the Gods can change the patterns of karma dating back many past lives, clearing and clarifying conditions that were created hundreds of years ago and are but seeds now, waiting to manifest in the future. The key here is intensity. Dropping by the temple for fifteen minutes on the way home from work is unlikely to accomplish such a transformation. Pilgrimage: Pilgrimage is an excellent way to generate an intensity of worship. Over the years, Gurudeva's devotees have pilgrimaged to India, visiting major temples such as Chidambaram, Rameshvaram and Palani Hills. Many have come back transformed. They physically look a little different, behave differently and fit back into life in a more positive way than before. Their karma was changed by the grace of the Gods. Vows: A vrata, or vow, can also generate an intensity of worship, such as fasting during the day and attending the temple on each of the six days of Skanda Shashthi or the 21 days of Vinayaga Viratam.Penance: Penance, prayashchitta, is a forth way to mitigate karma. This is like punishing yourself now and getting it over with instead of waiting for your karma to manifest a punishment in the future. A typical form of penance is to perform walking prostrations, such as around a sacred lake or mountain, up a sacred path or around a temple. Often it is advised to perform penance that is directly related to a misdeed. Let's take the example of a teacher who frequently used corporal punishment to discipline students but now strongly feels hitting children for any reason, even for discipline, is wrong. An appropriate penance would be to print and distribute to teachers literature on alternatives to corporal punishment. This type of penance should only be undertaken after a certain degree of remorse is shown and the urgency is felt by the devotee to rid his mind of the plaguing matter. Gurudeva said, "When pre-dawn morning pujas, scriptural reading, devotionals to the guru and meditation are performed without fail, the deeper side of ourselves is cultivated, and that in itself softens our karmas and prolongs life."Tirukural: "Be unremitting in the doing of good deeds; do them with all your might and by every possible means."
Eighth Principle: Accelerate Karma
Why wait twenty more births to achieve spiritual maturity when you could achieve it in two births? That is the idea behind accelerating karma. When we begin meditating and performing regular daily sadhana, preferably at the same time each day, our individual karma is intensified. In our first four or five years of striving on the path we face the karmic patterns that we would never have faced in this life had we not consciously intensified our spiritual practices. Those on the spiritual path resolve much more karma in a lifetime than others. They could be called professional karma managers.Of course, family duties in the grihastha ashrama don't allow much time for sadhana. Thus, the principle of karma acceleration is best fulfilled in the stage called sannyasa, both by those following the path of the monk and by everyone after age seventy-two. Retirement can be more than playing golf. It is an opportunity to intensify our spiritual practices and thus accelerate our karma. Gurudeva said, "By this conscious process of purification, of inner striving, of refining and maturing, the karmas come more swiftly, evolution speeds up and things can and usually do get more intense. Don't worry though. That is natural and necessary. That intensity is the way the mind experiences the added cosmic energies that begin to flow through the nervous system."
Tirukural: "Not allowing a day to pass without doing some good is a boulder that will block your passage on the path to rebirth."
Ninth Principle: Resolve Dream Karma

Though some of our dreams are only the result of thoughts occurring in our own mind, other dreams are astral experiences, of being conscious in our astral body and interacting with others in their astral body. These astral plane actions create karma, just as do our physical plane actions. This is the basis of the Hindu ideal that one would not steal or injure even in a dream. Why? Because such transgressions create negative karma that will come back to you. These are real karmas that may eventually manifest on the physical plane. However, this can be avoided if you happen to have further dream experiences in which appropriate actions are taken to dissolve the karma. More commonly, though, we can resolve dream or astral-plane karmas in the same way we would physical-world experiences, by performing penance for them in our waking state, while remembering the high standards of virtue and good conduct that should always be maintained, even during sleep. For instance, if in an emotional dream you injured someone intentionally, you could perform a simple penance the next day to atone, such as fasting one meal.Gurudeva said, "These kinds of dreams-when a person is in his astral body and can feel what he touches, emote to his experiences, think and talk-are not what is known as the dream state. This is an astral experience, similar to the death experience, but the astral body is still connected to the physical body."Tirukural: "The highest principle is this: never knowingly harm anyone at any time in any way."

Tenth Principle: Incinerate Karma
In the practice of yoga, we can burn up negative seed karmas without ever having to live through them. What we have to do is find the seed and dissolve it in intense inner light. Let's take the analogy of growing alfalfa spouts. You place the seeds in a jar and keep them moist until they sprout. But if you heat the seeds in a frying pan before putting them into the jar, they will no longer sprout. Similarly, karmas exposed to intense inner light are destroyed.A meditation adept, having pinpointed an unmanifested karmic seed, can either dissolve it in intense light or inwardly live through the reaction of his past action. If his meditation is successful, he will be able to throw out the vibrating experiences or desires which are consuming the mind. In doing this, in traveling past the world of desire, he breaks the wheel of karma which binds him to the specific reaction which must follow every action. That experience will never have to happen on the physical plane, for its vibrating power has already been absorbed in his nerve system. This incineration of karmic seeds can also happen during sleep.Gurudeva explains it in this way, "It is the held-back force of sanchita karma that the yogi seeks to burn out with his kundalini flame, to disempower it within the karmic reservoir of anandamaya kosa, the soul body."Tirukural: "As the intense fire of the furnace refines gold to brilliance, so does the burning suffering of austerity purify the soul to resplendence."
Conclusion
No matter how deep our understanding of karma may be, actually applying our understanding of karma to the events in our daily life can still be a challenge. Why is this? Our humanness gets in the way; our ego is challenged and we react to preserve our self image; our emotions are stirred and we respond impulsively, without intellectual reflection; our attitudes are prejudicial against certain religious or ethnic groups and we feel justified in striking out at them, because they are not "our people." How can such human weaknesses be overcome? It is by perfecting our character, which Gurudeva defined as "the ability to act with care." This is done through mastering Hinduism's Code of Conduct, the ten yamas, restraints, and the ten niyamas, observances. With a strong character in place, the mastery of karma becomes natural to us. Gurudeva mystically summarizes this process as follows:"Bhakti brings grace, and the sustaining grace melts and blends the karmas in the heart. In the heart chakra karmas are in a molten state. The throat chakra molds the karmas through sadhana, regular religious practices. The third eye chakra sees the karmas past, present and future as a singular oneness. And the crown chakra absorbs, burns clean, enough of the karmas to open the gate, the door of Brahman, revealing the straight path to merging with Siva."
~Diana Navarro, M.S.

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Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Pink Diamond Limited Edition-Beauty Box

My Tribute to My Beloved Mother


I'm super excited I got this lovely (special edition) beauty box. It's for mother's day and this day is traditionally sad for me since I lost my beloved mom in 1999 when she was only 49, from a rare cancer.

I usually get sad and try to focus on the beautiful mothers out there who are still here loving their children. But in addition to that, I decided to do a tribute to my mom by buying this for myself. I am absolutely sure  she would have loved it.

I love all the items in this box and am enjoying using them...I know this will get me through this year. Happy Mother's day to all the moms out there.

Pink Diamond Limited Edition  take a peak here

~Diana Navarro, M.S.
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Monday, April 17, 2017

Dating: Online Ridiculousness, When Actually Dating Part 5 Final Excerpt

The following Oh No Moment Dating Posts are excerpts from Heartbreak: Know Why and Heal

When Dating Isn’t Going to Work Out

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Oh No Moment
Whether to date again or not
Once you meet someone you like and perhaps want to date them again, the question of who is going to call whom arises. In a male/female relationship is it traditionally the male who makes the call. Of course there are exceptions depending on cultural norms at the time. And typically, it may be the male/alpha male in same sex dating. The possible scenarios are that you either want to see each other again or decide you don’t want to date and end it right there mutually and amicably. That takes communication and finesse. If you don’t want to date them again find out the best way to communicate this. Be aware some people feel rejected even if they themselves don’t want to continue dating you. How things are said matters. On the other hand, there are others who just won’t take no for an answer and are creeps. Be aware of this too.

Oh No Moment
Don’t break up with someone via text, email or social media
The exception is if there is absolutely no other option. There are cases where the person could be a bit creepy and it may be best to distance yourself slowly and carefully. Otherwise, if you have been on a few dates, it’s best to be clear in a well-mannered way that you will no longer be dating. Don’t be hurtful or abusive, it just isn’t necessary. Sometimes people just don’t click and you both have to be able to handle that once you engage in the dating scene.

Oh No Moment
The person disappears after one or more dates, what happened?
There is nothing more maddening than going on a date or two or even three times and thinking you click, then the person disappears with no explanation. As you can see, if there is clear communication from the beginning, then you both can know this is just a one date event or the possibility of more dates. But for the love of love, do not keep the person hanging. On the other hand, don’t keep asking, calling, texting, emailing or looking for a person if they don’t seem interested. If they don’t respond within a reasonable time (and that depends on the circumstances and people involved), then assume the person is not interested and move on as soon as possible. If possible try to learn from it without torturing yourself with the millions of things that could have led to this ending.

There are many reasons why people don’t respond when they don’t want to date again. Some reasons will have to be with them, some with you and other reasons with the interaction you had together. This has to be understood within your specific circumstances. Sometimes the expectations are so high that disappointment is inevitable. Other times there simply isn’t enough chemistry. I have had so many clients asking me why things didn’t work out with a particular person. I can usually tell once you hear a bit more about the circumstances. If there is something about the client that is key, I try to explore that. This can include so many different reasons, and many times we have clear cues and clues we ignore during the date or communication. It’s so crucial to learn to discern because the person usually gives some hints. Of course there are those who totally surprise you. This is where you must use your intuition to understand what is happening and how to move on from it, unscathed and with minimum damage.

Oh No Moment
Don’t bad mouth the person for little things
People are looking for different things in romantic relationships; Some are looking for the ultimate twin flame. Some are looking for flings. Some are looking for excitement and freedom to explore their sexuality. Some don’t know what they are looking for, and some are not looking at all in this area of their life. It’s crucial to have boundaries, limits and ideas of what it is you want. There are female and male predators, as well as well-meaning people looking for companionship. Do you know how to discern the difference, the warning signs of someone who can steal from you, lie to you, cheat on you, hit you, or kill you and your loved ones? Just look at the news and forensic files. Too many deaths are related to sexual/romantic relationships. Though some mentally, emotionally unstable people can go under ones radar, it is so important to stay informed. Do a little research. Your happiness and safety are worth it. Dating and seeking love should be an exhilarating, hopeful experience, not depressing and dangerous.



Common sense, being savvy, educated, aware, balanced with caution and openness can lead to a more pleasant experience. Explore the self-healing, self-loving areas first. That way you will be better prepared to attract and receive your ideal mate.

~Diana Navarro, M.S.
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