Fear is meant to be a life preserving emotion. However, too many of us are living in fear every day and it has nothing to do with life or death per se. In an uncertain world we need a certain amount of fear to keep us alert.  But not to the point where it becomes debilitating. 

For too many people fear has become your enemy. There is no other way to describe it.  Living with this constant fear leads to a slew of chronic physical, emotional and spiritual painful health issues. These can include anxiety, stress which in turn affects every bodily system, panic attacks, fatigue and so much more. Our adrenal glands become taxed from all the adrenalin it's pumping thinking you are in a life or death mode. There has to be a better way to bring yourself to balance and live a peaceful yet alert life. A life of balance.  

It is crucial for you to identify what "healthy" fear is versus living with chronic anxiety and worry. You may need a outside or professional help you assist you with this. Someone once described fear as, sand in the machinery of life. Unnecessary and constant fear doesn't help you, it hinders you. Fear doesn't get you through an open door; it keeps you in the hallway. Fear never helps you put your best foot forward; it just keeps both of your feet in cement.

Many schools of thought propose you learn to live with your fears, embrace your fears,  and that It's normal to have fears because everybody does. But again, if it's ever-present, you cannot live a full life and enjoy certain adventures life as to offer. It's true that many people do have fears. And there are people who are trying to learn how to live with their fears, and embrace them.

But if it's normal to have fears, then why are so many people so ill from it? The answer is, it isn't healthy place of balance. The very good news is that there are ways of approaching this disharmony. 

Approaches to addressing unnecessary and debilitating fear

• Medical-Check with a medical professional to rule out any underlying disease or illness. If one is identified then you can begin treatment and be on your way to wellness. 
• Psychological-Have an mental and psychological evaluation. As with a medical evaluation a psychological evaluation can identify or rule out any condition that may be causing and triggering the unhealthy fear. 
• Spiritual and Holistic-There are many resources available to get the spiritual support you may need should you need it. You don't have to be of a particular religion to get the help you need. Now with all the information available you can find a fit that is for you, from yoga, to Feng Shui, reiki, accupuncture, to spiritual counsel. The point is that there are options available in addition to the traditional health ones. 
• Creative-With the right guidance you can find that finding the right creative outlet is extremely helpful for releasing unnecessary fears. This can be something you can handle physically and emotionally ranging from dancing, sketching, chanting/singing, the sky is the limit.
• Physical-Just like the creative outlet, there are physical ones as well than can help you dislodge that stagnant fear and anxiety. Some overlap with the creative outlet and can include self-defense classes, again yoga, strength training, kick-boxing, all depending on your physical capabilities. 

Think about it – if it's normal to have fears, and you had no fears, then you would be abnormal, right? The goal is to be in balance in an ever-changing world. To give you relief from pain and the ability to cope with challenges.

The above suggestions can often help with specific types of fear. As in the fear of what others think of you. People do things, say things, and even buy things because of the fear that they have of what others think. In that way you can avoid certain behaviors done simply out of fear such as

~Joining clubs or organizations because they are afraid that if they don't, others might think badly of them.

~Saying things and talking a certain way because they are afraid that they might not say the right thing in front of the right people.

~Purchasing purchase items because of fear not measuring up to those around them. And on and on it goes. Or the need for products or services for insurance, injury prevention products

~Being directly affected because you are constantly reminded by the media of the the disasters in the world.  

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You don't have to live with fear. Here are 3 additional simple keys to dealing with this unnecessary fear.

1. Start by realizing that there is support available to you.  
2. Ask for the help and find the right one that works for you and your belief system to help you to get rid of all your fears. 
3. Make decisions based on what is best for you, not how it may or may not appear to others. You'll never, ever be able to please everyone, so stop trying to. You'll never, ever be right in everybody's eyes, so stop trying to.

When you make a decision, ask yourself, Why am I making this decision? Is it based on fear? Make decisions based on what is right and best for your life, regardless of what others think.

You can live without fear.

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~Always with Love, Light and Common Sense Manners~

Diana Navarro, M.S.
On a Quest to Bring Common Sense Manners Back!